SAY NO TO FAKE LIVING

no more scrubs in 3 steps

by Maxifern

1

a. Forget being the "good kid", stop focusing on other people's 

reactions, thoughts, needs and expectations

b. Express your feelings and values by example, while containing 

your tendency to control and monitor people's 

behavior and situations. Equally, resist your inclination

to rely on others for validation or security both emotional 

and material

 

2

a. Check in with your inner-self, investigate possible traumas. 

If this becomes too challenging and you feel overwhelmed, 

do seek assistance from professionals

b. Resist the materialistic, solely pragmatist, the so very called 

realistic definitions of relationships

c. Push back to anyone trying to convince you that the reality is using 

people and being used by them in order to survive or succeed

 

3

a. Stop viewing relationships as transactions with exchanges, 

benefits and risks. In other words stop objectifying yourself 

or others, while treating all concerned as means of materializing 

your goals

b. Start viewing yourself as a being with soul, heart and spirit. 

Go deeper and further than what your social conditioning 

dictates you are, a body and mind at best, in most modern cultural 

set-ups

c. Refuse to conform and compromise under peer pressure regarding 

the norms, any stereotypes about responsible adulthood, 

purpose and happiness