COG WORDS 6     

by Maxifern 

 

        

                                                                                                                                                 No matter what you believe, 

one thing is for sure: Neither is impossible!

I am not feeling generous today,

so, I am going to stick with the friend part.

Firstly, let's not forget that forgiveness has 

nothing to do with some kind of "amnesia". 

It is not about forgetting or dismissing the 

significance or the impact of whatever sour 

went down between you and your friend. 

 

From my experience, it is usually

exaggerated and blown out of proportion 

though, mainly because of the fact 

(an uncomfortable one) that our friends 

are viewed as a sort of possession 

which we can or should be able to control. 

They are expected to operate according to some 

manual of our design and liking, therefore, 

when they fail in doing so, we feel entitled to 

feel let down, disappointed or betrayed

depending on the nature and scale of operation.

The truth is that friends are like co-passengers 

on the same flight. Same destination but different 

seats and different motivations. Proximity doesn't 

mean closeness, understanding or sharing just for

the minimum of co-existence is not really intimacy.

While on a flight you could experience any 

unpleasantries from screaming babies and

turbulence to mechanical failures, hijacking 

and terrorist attacks!

No matter which flight, destination or 

mix of passengers, no peace or safety is 

really guaranteed. 

We board the plane and become part of 

the craft, in order to have the journey, 

the adventure, have the expansion and the 

experience to fulfill the practicalities 

and necessities of jobs, families or just 

escape and explore.

 

Different incidents, episodes, or accidents 

while traveling can teach us how to be better 

persons and how to grow and mature. 

And this comes at a price and I am not 

referring to the tickets or hotels! 

It is scary to think that very often 

the people we love and trust the most will 

treat us like shit! But that could be us doing 

the shitty stuff, nobody is immune to some fallacy.

After the dust has settled do not waste time 

on feeling bitter or Zeus forbid, making any 

plans for revenge! 

Forgiveness is the release and freedom you feel, 

after a "long" and painful 

self-reflection period, to start living 

fully again with no fear. 

With your "stupid" friend or not..

But always with both your "smart' 

and "stupid" self! Sorry! 

You must always live 

with the whole of yourself! 

It makes sense to learn how to forgive "you" 

for practice and then 

move on to the rest..

Don't let wounds define you.

Life is too short for self-pity or grunges!

We can turn trauma into wisdom and 

withdraw from any set-ups that caused it, 

quietly and decisively.

It is a choice..

Good luck everybody!