From red to blue 

to Yellow Valentine

 

What is it that triggers feelings 

of inadequacy, insecurity and 

unworthiness very often on 

Valentine's Day?

What is it that raises the volume 

of your inner voice when it talks 

down to you regarding your value 

in the "love market"?

But is it your own voice, really?

Or is it the echo of a parent,

teacher, culture that taught you 

your value is conditional? 

You must have a lover, partner, 

wife, husband, call it whatever fits 

your narrative, to prove you are whole 

and worthy.

Furthermore, ironically,

you could just as well be in any 

relationship of the above and feel 

really anxious on this day.

 

Many experience a Blue Valentine

because our relationships

are a facade, an empty shell 

of a connection, merely to keep 

us "safe"in a society that threatens 

to treat you like sick, damaged 

or just a failure and isolate you.

Even if you choose not to pay

attention to Valentine's day, 

and many of us don't, 

the issues of love and worthiness 

are there inside ourselves lurking

to take over and "color"

any attempt to have a meaningful

connection and eventually sabotage it.

So, celebrate or not the day,

coming back to yourself,

observing as neutrally as possible 

your inner voice, when speaking 

of matters of love, is key.

 

The foundation, of all healthy, 

happy connections, is learning

how to know and accept ourselves

with no conditions attached.

Learning how to love ourselves.

Happy Yellow Valentine!

 

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